No More Mr. Nice Guy!!

You've been told all your life- You're a good boy, what a nice guy, he's a good man. Then, one day...you wake up to a life that was never yours. But you did everything right. You played the part. Held the door. Got the job. Smiled when you were supposed to. Said yes when you wanted to scream. You became the guy everyone said they wanted. But deep down, you feel like a visitor in your own life. That’s not kindness. That’s not love. That’s submission dressed up in a smile.

You were raised to be a nice guy, a good boy. But what they really meant was: be quiet, be safe, be small, be something other than who you were. Don't rock the boat. Don't want too much. Be agreeable. Be digestible. Be useful.

But let me tell you something, man—being nice is NOT the same as being good. Nice is a survival tactic. It’s camouflage, a safe way... a muzzle.

Your dads worked to support the family so you learned it young, from all of the women who raised you (moms, grandmas, aunts, teachers and maybe Nuns). But they didn’t really have the manual for raising a man did they? They drew upon their own perceptions of what manhood meant. You may have picked it up in the silence of fathers that were Nice Guys, or the absence of strong male energy. You became the emotional shock absorber for everybody else’s chaos. You became the fixer. The peacemaker. The man who disappears so no one else has to be uncomfortable. You created chaos so you could step in and be the hero.

“If Boys don’t learn, men won’t know.” – Douglas Wilson

And now what? You’ve built a life that looks great on paper...and feels like a prison.

Marriage, kids, dogs, jobs, and maybe a white picket fence. A lawn that’s always mowed and fed and a soul that’s always starving.

You wear the mask so well you forget it’s a mask. But you, quietly, know it’s fake. Something in you is scartching to get out.

So here’s the truth you’ve been avoiding:

You don’t need permission to take the mask off.

You don’t need a committee of women to tell you it’s okay to want what you want.

You don’t need another failed relationship to wake up.

Your masculinity is not toxic.

Your feelings matter; all of them.

You’re allowed to speak the truth, even if it makes people uncomfortable. You’re allowed to set fire to the version of yourself that everyone else designed and build something real in the ashes. You're allowed to be a man.

“A man is responsible for his ignorance.” – Milan Kundera

No more Nice Guy!

You want to show up authentically?

Then stop asking for approval.

Tell the truth and own YOUR needs. Set your boundaries and let the chips,and fake friends, fall. Stop fixing shit just so you can feel useful. You want to be a man? Stop trying to understand or define what a man is and just start being one.

Be a man who stands in his truth, even when it’s messy, even when it costs him the fake comfort of other people’s expectations.

“One can not always be a hero, but one can always choose to be a man.” – Mozart

At M.O.S.T., we don’t hand out gold stars for being “nice.” We build men who are real, honest, grounded and dangerous in the best damn way because they’re not afraid of who they are.

So if you’re tired of living in the shell of someone else’s dream…Burn it down.

Start over. And this time, show up.

Unmasked.

Unbreakable.

Unstoppable.